I ask this because, I, Priya Mulji am the biggest living example of this. I am not the only one, so many people I know do the same, I’m not saying it is a negative however one minute we can be on the top of the world and the next completely down in the dumps. It happens. We are women.
So why do we do this to ourselves? we could be having an amazing day, then one awful set of words could be said to us and the day will turn to dust and I, for example, will start listening to sad songs and have a little cry in the work toilets. Why though? Because we let our emotions rule us? Do we secretly like to be ‘miserable’ and seek for someone to ask us how we are?
Also when it comes to love, I have been ‘let down’ multiple people in the past whether it be in love, life, work or with friends. I’m not sure if I believe that a man can fall in love with me, even when they do show some interest and I to my own surprise believe that I could find happiness at last, I end up completely falling for them instantly rather than taking it easy and if they end up never contacting me after that first date and then I will fall into that hole of self loathing and despair. Even though I tell myself I won’t.
So what happens one day when the perfect man comes along and actually falls in love with us? Will we ruin it for ourselves? Scare the guy off? Instead of just enjoying something and not wondering whether it is going to turn into something great or not. We just fret, despair, sit around in angst and instead we just keep wondering if we will find gold at the end of the rainbow or will we find dust.
So how can this be overcome?
As hard as it is, don’t let negativity bother you. Misery loves company. Whether it is a job rejection, love or money.
Easier said than done I hear you scream?
But think of it this way. You walking around town with a frown isn’t going to attract love. Going to a job interview and feeling down about yourself and questioning your capabilities isn’t going to bag you that dream position. And by feeling negative you’re not going to win the lottery!
SO lets do this together, you, me, your colleague at work lets join and kick away that misery guts person and replace with happy (insert your name) x