The Kaiser Chiefs sang ‘Let it never be said, that romance is dead, cos there’s so little else occupying my head’
Admit it girls, we love to be wined and dined. We pretend to be these independent women who offer to pay for half of dinner on a date but do we really want to pay or do we want the Mr we are on a date with to say ‘put your money away darling, I’m paying’.
Instead of you calling a guy first they should call you. Flowers, chocolates, wine, being picked up by our dates, boyfriends, potential boyfriends is what we all dream of, right? Instead most of us will get ‘yeah I’ll just meet you in town at the left lion.’
How often, when you speak to your friend who went on a date last night, your friend say ‘he bought me flowers’ It got me thinking? ‘Is romance dead?’
So what has happened to chivalry? Making love instead of having sex. Wouldn’t you want, after you have been on holiday with your girlfriends, for your guy to drive 100 miles to Gatwick just to surprise you?
Times are changing people say, men have become too laid back and think women don’t want all this. They wait for the woman to call before he does because ‘that’s what they think women want.’ On the contrary. I would love it, when I’m initially dating a guy, if he chased me and showed me he was interested, well not chasing too much but just the right amount. The right amount being construed as him texting that eve and calling you the next day, texting daily, calling every other. Arranging the next date (and if there is going to be a 2nd or 3rd) within the next few days. Instead of waiting for us to do it because ‘he is really busy.’ Rather than texting or emailing isn’t just picking up the phone and asking whether you would like to meet or just fancy a chat more romantic? Obviously now we have to tell them what they ‘should’ be doing if they want to date a girl?
Clearly, there are men who will tell their girlfriends everyday that they are beautiful, who will turn up to their work place or send flowers without a reason. These guys are one in a million – don’t let go of these guys girls!
To be fair I haven’t been ‘romanced’ greatly apart from in my head, I haven’t ever been on a date on Valentine’s Day maybe I have had one valentine’s card in my whole life. But judging from the above research I conducted will it even happen? That when I am finally in a relationship will I be romanced like in the movies or will it be up to me to make it known I like a guy? (With the risk of a guy thinking I’m a stalker).
Men, if you want a girl to be yours. All you have to do is say. Be romantic, you know the old fashioned way. Wine and dine her, make her heart flutter and make love not have sex. Call her. Sweep a woman off her feet, love her without acting like a fool who doesn’t care and she will be yours forever.