So last night I saw the movie PK starring Aamir Khan, Anushka Sharma and Directed by Rajkumar Hirani which has become a major topic of conversation and tackles the subject of people who claim to be messengers of God and take advantage of peoples beliefs.. I had to write a blog post on thoughts I had while watching the movie.
“32… single… well there must be something wrong in your stars. Have you tried fasting on a Wednesday or going to see this priest who will be able to tell you what is wrong with your stars? Perhaps by wearing this stone on your middle finger it will help you find a husband?”
The above is plight of many single Asian women out there who are in their 30’s.
Now don’t get me wrong, I was born into a Hindu family, I do believe in God and I think having a faith and belief is wonderful. It brings you peace and gives you faith but I’m more spiritual than I am religious. Like, there is no more a peaceful and spiritual place for me than in a temple with the smells of agarbatti and divas, listening to beautiful Hindu hymns and that general feeling of peace which I would imagine comes at any place of worship. But I just don’t take it to a level where it takes over my life.
But while the movie continues to be controversial for reasons which I don’t want to go into in this post, it made me think. I am 32 and extended family members always make comments like the ones I made at the beginning of this post.
But how can stars, fasting or speaking to a particular ‘manager’ of a God find you a life partner? Correct me if I am wrong but they can’t, can they? What I do believe that everything which is meant to happen will happen, whether that is finding my life partner in the next year, next ten years, perhaps I’m meant to be single forever.. who knows? But what I do know is that the universe will only give me what I am meant, destined and deserve to have.
After a fantastic session of acupuncture recently; columnist and acupuncturist Mita Mistry’s encouraging words have continued to echo in my mind:
‘Be the best version of yourself. Find joy from within because positivity breeds positivity’
Mita is based in Leamington Spa and runs Naturally Balanced. She specialises in acupuncture, moxibustion, cupping therapy and much more. I really recommend seeing her if you need acupuncture! You can visit her website here.
And you know what just adopting that attitude has really made a change in my life. Of course I see people around me getting married, having children and that used to bother me but now I think that will happen when it is meant to happen. Just have faith, don’t pay money to some rip off priests who say they can do something for you. Make these changes yourself by just changing your attitude. I’m not saying abandon religion, I think believing in God is wonderful and I always will but by being positive, having faith and believing will make such an impact in your life that you won’t seek to find happiness in someone else. When the time comes and it is YOUR time, your life partner will enhance your life. Too many wonderful women find themselves in their mid-late thirties, single, not fussy at all but then because these things like they are manglik (what does that even mean!) have been drilled into their heads they start believing that! Step back and start living your life and let what is meant to happen fall into place. You’re more likely to find a life partner on a dating website than you are by fasting on a Tuesday.
Priya Mulji
priyamulji.com 
Well said. There are a lot of quacks out there.
I happen to come across your post which a dear friend, Mita reposted on FB… Initially caught my eye reference to the film PK (one I still haven’t got round to watching but will do as it’s an Amir Khan film).
But as I went on to read your post I found it interesting especially as I could relate to it as you certainly echo my own thoughts…it’s also us men who face this same “plight”.
I do wonder though….is it a mere need for the extended family to want to attach the reason for not finding someone to such things as the stars or wearing a ring or fasting and putting faith in these so called “manager of God” ? The other classic one is of course “are you just to fussy!” Totally another debate in itself that can be argued in my opinion.
The point is… As quite rightly Mita eloquently put it and I truly believe in…, is to have a positive attitude which in turn give the opportunity for you to meet positive people and be amongst positive people. Along that path you will potentially meet the person you seek as a partner to spend the rest of your life with.
An interesting and well written post Priya.