I feel I have been neglecting my lovely blog readers recently what with all the Eastern Eye columns and stuff going on. I thought I’d write a bespoke piece just for you amazing people.
At the beginning of November I went on a wonderful date. The person I had a date with was a gentleman, got there on time, had manners, was well spoken, held my coat for me and was good looking to boot! I hadn’t had a date like that in a very long time!
However, I’ve not always been so lucky. I have had dates with the oddest of specimens: the stoned man who felt putting his feet on the coffee table in the bar (in front of people) was appropriate, the man who ‘didn’t know when he would be free for the next date’ and the guy that stood me up.
So apart from the standard ‘pay for dinner’ or be a gentleman pre requisites what do women expect from a man on a first date?
I took to my favourite sources for research purposes. My awesome Facebookers and Twitter followers came up with some aspects to bear in mind when going on a first date.
Light hearted conversation was a must! No talk of ex’s, the want for 5 children; 3 boys and 2 girls. Don’t complain too much or repeat that you hate your job. Have manners. Men should pay (at least on a first date) women should offer to pay but after the second or third date you go halves unless on a special occasion or he’s a millionaire!
Have manners. As per my ‘man who was stoned and thought it was ok to put his feet on the table’ scenario people must realise manners are a must. Don’t get me wrong you don’t want to look like a ponce but simple pleases, thank you’s and holding the door are the norm. And women don’t forget your manners either, don’t turn up looking like you’ve just come out of the gym or you’ve just been to take the dog for a walk. Make each other laugh, get to know each other, learn something new, get to know each other’s likes and dislikes and enjoy each other’s company. After that decide on whether you want another date. Whether you do or don’t it is important to let the other person know.
A question cropped up which I will leave you with because I don’t have the answer to it. How acceptable is it to date more than one person in the ‘getting to know’ stage? I am not a fan of dating more than one person but I know many people that do. I couldn’t ever do it but in the age of online dating, winks, pokes and nudges how long before date just one person and become exclusive?
Let me know your thoughts!