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Dhaba Lane – review

Dhaba Lane

Dhaba Lane

Website – http://www.dhabalane.com/ Twitter – https://twitter.com/DhabaLane Facebook – https://www.facebook.com/DhabaLane

Dhaba is a name for roadside café’s in India and Pakistan which serve hearty and wholesome, often Punjabi, food. They’re a truck-drivers preferred choice of stop off and I was headed to a London equivalent of a Dhaba.

It’d been a little while since I was invited to check out the newly-opened Dhaba Lane situated on Leonard Street in trendy Shoreditch. I was invited by co-founder Upma Arora to sample their lunchtime delights for some healthy Indian cuisine. It was a sunny Tuesday and I’d been in town for some meetings so decided to pop and visit Dhaba Lane. The establishment is tucked away underground on Leonard Street, about a 7 minute walk from Old Street station but also accessible from Shoreditch High Street and Liverpool Street stations. Keep an eye out for the brightly-coloured Dhaba Lane sign outside.

Dhaba Lane

Dhaba Lane

Walking it I was instantly taken by the British Raj type pictures on the wall, the Dhaba Lane road sign which was indicating we were in the Royal Borough of Tasty Food and the yesteryear India feel of the small but quirky joint. A few people were already tucking into their lunches and were oohing and aahing over their meals. I began to feel excited and my belly was rumbling!

Dhaba Lane

Dhaba Lane

Some of the great things about Dhaba Lane is that is sources all of its meat and veggies locally and they try to use Class A meat as much as they can. They also incorporate healthy and nutritious ingredients such as Kale into their salads. They also are working to reduce waste by using environmentally friendly and recyclable materials and packaging as much as they can. So the pricing works like this:

Dhaba Lane pricing

Dhaba Lane pricing

Tuesday was ‘dahi chicken curry’ and ‘dahi green beans curry’ day – both looked delicious so my guest and I tried both! One of the things that really struck me was the homely-ness of the food. It was definitely the kind of food my mum would make at home and as we began to tuck in each mouthful was reminding me of the Sundays when I go home mum cooks dinner and we eagerly tuck in. The chicken was spicy and tender. The green beans were extremely fresh, healthy, tasty, spicy and tender. Each of the curries come with white or brown rice and your choice of two salads toppings. You can even have some hot sauce for that extra kick! We also ordered a stuffed paratha which was warm, moist and tasty. It was served with a mint and coriander chutney which was the perfect accompaniment.

Dhaba Lane Dahi Chicken

Dhaba Lane Dahi Chicken

Dhaba Lane Paratha

Dhaba Lane Paratha

We chose the followings salads which are Indian ‘kachumber’ salad style and sprinkled with chaat masala: – Kale, mango and cucumber – Cabbage and carrots – Green lentils and beetroot The lunches were washed down with masala tea and mango lassi. The portions were definitely enough for lunch and I did almost need a nap after eating!

Dhaba Lane Mango Lassi

Dhaba Lane Mango Lassi

You can also stop by Dhaba Lane for breakfasts consisting of Indian bacon & egg rolls or parathas. They cook their food to order but you can always call them ahead of your arrival to pre-order your brekkie.

Dhaba Lane Breakfast

Dhaba Lane Breakfast

When you’re feeling a little homesick or want a taste of a roadside joint in India but are stuck in London, Dhaba Lane fills that void. Even though it has only been open six months I’m sure that this place won’t remain a secret for too long.   Priya Mulji

Interview with Trishna Bharadia

The peoples strictly has recently won the hearts of the UK and I was lucky enough to have the chance to speak to one of the stars of the show Trishna. Trishna personally won my heart when I watched the show and it was touching to see such a sweet message from her family. Read my chat with her below:

You’re an Asian Woman with MS, tell us a little about MS and your diagnosis..

I was diagnosed with MS in 2008, when I was 28, although I’ve probably had it since 2004.

In 2004 I lost the strength in both my hands, to the extent where I couldn’t grip and couldn’t use a knife and fork properly. At the time it was put down to Repetitive Strain Injury, but then three years later I lost the feeling down the left side of my body, from my toes up to my shoulder. I’ve had other symptoms since my diagnosis, like extreme fatigue, muscle spasms and pins and needles too.

MS affects around 100,000 people in the UK and it’s an autoimmune condition that affects the central nervous system. Your nerves become damaged so it affects your core being. Worst case scenario for someone like me with Relapsing Remitting MS (there are four types of MS and RRMS is the most common) is that I could be in a wheelchair within 5-10 years. That’s scary, especially as I didn’t know much about the condition. It’s not something that is well known in the Asian community, which is why I think there are lots of misconceptions about it.

 

Trishna - Peoples Strictly

Trishna – Peoples Strictly

How do you keep active with MS?

I plan! I have to get enough rest and I’ve had to adapt. Take hockey, for instance; when I was diagnosed I was training twice a week and sometimes playing two games in a weekend. Now I can’t manage that. I play one game at the weekend, give it my all and know that it will wipe me out for the rest of the day. Or when I go to Zumba, I make sure I have a nap beforehand so that I can give 100% in the class.

Trishna & Aljaz - Peoples Strictly

Trishna & Aljaz – Peoples Strictly

 

What advice would you give someone who has recently been diagnosed with MS?

I’d say it’s all about recognising, accepting and adapting. Recognising what your new capabilities may be, accepting that things may have to change and adapting your life so that you’re able to continue to enjoy it. Also, there is plenty of information and support out there so if you do want it then don’t be afraid to ask. The MS Society and the MS Trust are good places to start. There is an Asian MS support group that works under the umbrella of the MS Society too. There’s always plenty of Desi Khana (Indian food) at Asian MS events!

 

I love food so what do you love to eat?

Ice-cream!!!!! I’m an ice-cream addict! When I went to Italy there were some days where I just skipped lunch and had gelato instead! I’m also a carb-lover. I can’t live without my pasta. Plus I love paneer. Which is weird because as a kid I hated it! But now I could quite easily eat it every day!

 

So, you’re on The Peoples Strictly with the lovely Aljaz.. What has the experience been like so far?

This has been the best experience of my life! It has challenged me physically, mentally emotionally. I feel like I’ve been on a roller-coaster for three months and I don’t want it to end! Aljaz and I have had an absolute ball rehearsing our jive. I’ve ended up on my bum on the floor a number of times but we’ve just fallen about laughing over it. He’s been amazing to me and I couldn’t have wished for a more caring, understanding and compassionate dance partner. I’ve loved everything about the whole journey – the dancing, the sparkles, the filming and getting to know the other five absolutely inspirational and wonderful contestants.

Trishna & Aljaz - Peoples Strictly

Trishna & Aljaz – Peoples Strictly

 

Who have been your biggest supporters?

My biggest supporters have been my family and friends, the MS community and the hockey community. But everyone has been fantastic to be honest and they’ve really got behind us, especially knowing how challenging this has been for me!

 

Tell the readers of Priya’s Blog a secret about you..

I still watch “Neighbours” avidly every day! :-O If I ever go to Australia, the first port of call will be the Neighbours tour for me!

I wish Trishna ALLLL the very best in The People’s Strictly…get voting tonight after all the couples have danced and don’t forget lines will only be open for 30 minutes.

Follow Trishna’s journey on Twitter here

Priya Mulji 

 

Boiled Beans on Toast

Runs – Tuesday 10 March – Sunday 15 March

At – Watermans Arts – http://www.watermans.org.uk/

Tickets – £15 (£12.50)

Written by – Girish Karnad

Director – Lillete Dubey

Starring – Gillian Pinto, Swati Das, Joy Sengupta, Deepika Amin, Avantika Akerker, Avnish Mehra and Maneesh Verma

 

A little while ago I just got in from seeing a great play at the Watermans Arts theatre which only runs until Sunday so make sure you book your tickets quickly to avoid disappointment!

“Boiled Beans on Toast is a sharp and witty observation of Indians living in the modern world. It is the story of a group of people living in the same house, and we follow them as their lives converge and then disband in a humorous and insightful tale of contemporary society. The city is Bangalore but anyone familiar with life in a modern Indian mega polis will instantly respond to this portrayal of urban aspirations, conflict, blind groping and even violence”

Boiled beans on toast

Boiled beans on toast

It is the story of lots of different characters from different backgrounds and how their lives entwine.. It was a wonderful play and I urge everyone to see it for the following reasons..

I’ll begin with the setting – I loved that they didn’t use Mumbai or Delhi and chose the Silicon Valley of India; Bangalore (officially called Bengaluru). I loved the sound effects, background music, the traditional costumes and the props like the ‘smartphone.’ The Watermans Arts Theatre was the perfect place to bring Bangalore/Bengaluru to London, it was intimate yet big enough for everyone to take in the sights and sounds of South India. The BBC Asian Networks Haroon Rashid told me the title came from Bangalore/Bengaluru meaning Boiled Beans and from Toast being ‘modern.’

The characters were perfectly cast I thought; from Kitty the conniving housewife (my favourite!) who loves to take people on a ride, Vimla the cook, to Anjana the housewife with a secret past to Prabhaker the man with a dream and Kunaal the future rock star. All were wonderfully eloquent, vibrant and effortless.

At some points I did think it did drag on a little but added to the storyline the less and it would’ve been incomplete without those scenes.

Playwright Girish Karnad really bought to life each and every character and their tiny little nuances. From Kitty’s sunglasses that kept falling from her head and it was not a story that was predictable. You didn’t know how the play was going to end or where the characters would go.

Lillete Dubey - Director

Lillete Dubey – Director

At the end I had the chance to speak to Lilette Dubey and thank you Rita Morar for taking the picture for me! Lilette has produced and directed the play and was extremely friendly and humble. She thanked us for coming and laughed when I said I loved her in Kal Ho Na ho.. actually during the play the guy from Indian Summers was sitting right in front of me but I was too scared to ask for a selfie!

Priya Mulji with Lilette Dubey

Priya Mulji with Lilette Dubey

Overall it was a great evening of theatre and something you should definitely try and see, especially something with your mum on Mother’s Day this Sunday.

 

Priya Mulji

Asjad Nazir Interviews Shakti Mohan

Asjad Nazir recently interviewed talented dancer Shakti Mohan, read the interview here:

 

Shakti Mohan – Interview Part 1

Shakti Mohan Interview Part 2

Ay up!

You may not realise it but i’m originally from Nottingham, some people say I have a strong accent, some say a slight accent, some say i’m pretty neutral – but i’ll let you decide for yourselves.

Martyn, a friend of mine from school recently went travelling around the Far East and recorded this awesome video of him teaching kids how to speak ‘Nottingham’ – yes there is such a thing! Have a go and send me your videos!

 

Priya Mulji

Chloe Afternoon Tea – Mandarin Oriental

“Tea is like poetry”

This week I was invited by Anomalous London to check out the lovely, beautiful and luxurious Chloe Afternoon Tea at the Mandarin Oriental in swanky Knightsbridge. Set in the beautiful and classy Rosebery Room the Chloe Afternoon tea is part of London Fashion week and runs until the beginning of March.

Chloe Afternoon Tea Mandarin Oriental

Chloe Afternoon Tea Mandarin Oriental

I walked in and as an ex-Nottingham girl I was enamoured by the opulence of the Mandarin. I have friends visiting in May so definitely taking them there for cocktails! Just walking around I felt like I was in a New York movie and I should have been wearing a beautiful flowing dress like Audrey Hepburn. I fell in love with the Mandarin there and then.

Chloe Afternoon Tea Mandarin Oriental

Chloe Afternoon Tea Mandarin Oriental

So, we were having the Chloe Fizz Afternoon Tea (£54 with cocktail/champagne, or £45 with just tea) and started with cocktails. I had the gin-based Pink Folder to start with served with pomegranate seeds. Anomalous had the Hepburn, a vodka-based cocktail garnished with rose petals.

Hepburn Cocktail

Hepburn Cocktail

Pink Folder Cocktail

Pink Folder Cocktail

So we started with some yummy little sandwiches, they were cut in a cute bag-style shape and the fillings included crayfish, salmon, egg, organic chicken and ham. They were cute, bite-sized and a great start to our afternoon tea.

Chloe Afternoon Tea Mandarin Oriental

Chloe Afternoon Tea Mandarin Oriental

We then had our scones and oh… my god… they were delicious. The scones were light, fresh and accompanied by Devonshire clotted cream, strawberry jam, rose petal jelly or homemade lemon curd.

Chloe Afternoon Tea Mandarin Oriental

Chloe Afternoon Tea Mandarin Oriental

Chloe Afternoon Tea Mandarin Oriental

Chloe Afternoon Tea Mandarin Oriental

I’m a jam on top girl – what are you?

Then…. Then…. It was dessert time! And WOW what a dessert plate it was! A selection of hand-made pastries were:

The Drew: cherry and almond Manjari chocolate ganache

Purple frills: Coconut mousse, spiced pineapple and ginger sable

1971: Lime posset and wild strawberry cremeaux eclair

Tropical Petticoat: guava parfait, crunchy passion fruit and sable breton

Pistachio cloud: Layered pistachio and vanilla delice

Chloe Afternoon Tea Mandarin Oriental

Chloe Afternoon Tea Mandarin Oriental

My favourite, by far, was the Tropical Petticoat but all of them were a delight to the taste-buds.

This was by far the best afternoon tea I have ever had and what made it even more amazing was the Tea-Master Ludovic Coco who gave us an education of all things tea. I took quite a liking to oolong and po’erh tea. Make sure to ask for him if you go! He was mesmerising and explained so many different types of teas to us, he is the one who coined the phrase (or at least told us about it) ‘tea is like poetry.’

Chloe Afternoon Tea Mandarin Oriental

Chloe Afternoon Tea Mandarin Oriental

Chloe Afternoon Tea Mandarin Oriental

Chloe Afternoon Tea Mandarin Oriental

Overall, this afternoon tea treat was exactly what I needed on a rainy Monday afternoon. I might not be part of Fashion Week but I sure felt special.

Thank you once again to Anomalous London for taking me as your guest and thank you Mandarin Oriental for all of your hospitality.

A few more pics:

Chloe Afternoon Tea Mandarin Oriental

Chloe Afternoon Tea Mandarin Oriental

Chloe Afternoon Tea Mandarin Oriental

Chloe Afternoon Tea Mandarin Oriental

Chloe Afternoon Tea Mandarin Oriental

Chloe Afternoon Tea Mandarin Oriental

Priya Mulji

Saravana Bhavan – Review

A fairly short post for you here and I’ve decided not to rate as this is more just me sharing my love for Saravana Bhavan (plus I’m a little biased by my love of the Dosa). All over the world this vegetarian restaurant chain is well-known to one and all across the world. Actually, that is a lie, I didn’t know about it until I moved to London and a boy introduced me to it (thanks dude!) but then I realised that EVERYONE knew about it. Where have I been? Anyway, Saravana Bhavan has quick become a fave of mine to get me my dosa fix and I don’t think anywhere does a tastier, crispier dosa! Even my friend is San Francisco knows of the place and loves it! Recently, post a TV appearance, Rita Morar and I took a trip to the South Indian restaurant (they are dotted all over London but we frequented the Rayners Lane branch) and decided to indulge in some South Indian tasti-ness. Here are a few of my faves and a description of them:

Paneer 65 – coated paneer, fried and served with tomato sauce and onions

Paneer 65

Paneer 65

Cocktail Fried Idli – a smaller, fried version of the traditional Idli, served with a selection of sauces

Cocktail fried idli

Cocktail fried idli

Palak Paneer (more like Saag Paneer though) – paneer cooked a in a spinach sauce

Palak Paneer

Palak Paneer

Paper Roast/Plain Dosa – a traditional Dosa (Indian savoury pancake) with no filling but served with sauces and a bowl of dal

Dosa

Dosa

Noodles – Chinese style noodles – they speak for themselves

Chinese style noodles

Chinese style noodles

Garlic Naan

Garlic naan

Garlic naan

Falooda – the ultimate milkshake! Milk, ice-cream, basil seeds, sauce, jelly.. the perfect end to an indulgent meal

Falooda

Falooda

Every time I go there I want to go and visit south India and am left stuffed but wanting more. I’ve been to the East Ham branch too and both are lovely, although sometimes the food is spicier than others and there is always a queue. But the food is tasty, extremely reasonable, the chai is perfect and the service quick and always with a smile. What more could you ask for?

 

Visit the SB website – http://www.saravanabhavan.co.uk/

Priya Mulji

Eaton Square Bar & Restaurant Review

Twitter – https://twitter.com/eatonsquarebar

Website – http://www.eatonsquarebar.com/

Ambience – 5

Food – 4

Service – 4

Location – 4

Closest station – Victoria

Standout dish – Lamb Kofta

 

There is nothing nicer than sitting and chatting with one of your best girlfriends, eating delicious Lebanese food and sipping yummy cocktails. That’s exactly what my friend Ush (check out her brand-new fitness blog here!) and I did a couple of weeks ago when we visited the newly re-branded Eaton Square Bar & Restaurant (part of the Noura chain), based in up-market Belgravia.

It was a busy Thursday night and we had arrived about 45 minutes earlier than our table reservation so sat down by the bar and had a couple of cocktails. I started with a yummy Lychee and Mango martini and Ush had a bespoke cocktail which contained Cassis, Champagne and Chambord. Both were a great start to the evening! The bartenders were really friendly and when we were asking what certain spirits tasted like gave us little samples to try. We got to try Saffron Gin and Chopin Potato Vodka.

Martini

Martini

Eaton Square is a family run restaurant which serves Lebanese cuisine inspired by their dad’s cooking and we opted for a selection of Mezze and then shared a main and dessert. We also opted for a glass of Malbec to accompany our meal.

We started with baba ghanoush and a trio of dips with homemade pita breads. What was really unique about this dish the waiter told us is that the aubergine are not mass cooked and every single aubergine is skinned and chargrilled with tender loving care. They employ a guy to just do that all day! Let’s say it pays off as it tasted delicious! The dips were homemade and refreshing. We then moved on to the crispy squid which was cooked with simple flavours, light and soft on the inside and crispy on the outside. It was really tasty and moreish, and served with a tartar sauce.

Baba Ghanoush

Baba Ghanoush

Crispy Squid

Crispy Squid

 

Moving onto the standout dish of the evening and something really special! Now, if you know me you will know that I’m not the biggest lamb or pork fan but the Lamb Kofta’s were something! The small kofta’s were served on a plate with sauces, the lamb was soft and tender. They were flavoursome and had a spicy kick. In Ush’s words ‘I have never tasted these intense flavours together, they’re combined really well.’ We were told by the waiter that the lamb had been marinated for 48 hours.

Lamb Kofta

Lamb Kofta

Other dishes..

The chicken skewers were served with a balsamic glaze with salad and sesame seeds. They were home-style simply grilled and satisfying. The lamb sausages were made tandoori shish kebab style, like a mixed grill, served with lemon and peppers. These were small but had a spicy kick!

Chicken Skewers

Chicken Skewers

 

I was pretty stuffed by that point but one of my friends’ favourite dishes is lamb shank and it came highly recommended. And Ush is glad she did try it! The lamb was tender, succulent, and peppery and served with a creamy, buttery mash and gravy. It was a large portion size, simple but tasty and nicely presented.

Lamb Shank

Lamb Shank

To end the meal we chose the Apple Tart to share. It warm, comforting, nutty, almondy and served with sweet fruit. The perfect end to a meal with your friend.

Apple Tart

Apple Tart

Overall, Eaton Square is a lovely place for after work food or even a nice date. It can get busy so make sure you book a table, they also have live music on so that is a really nice complement to the chilled ambience. A great evening out all in all!

 Priya Mulji

Asiana Interview

Well guess what recently happened to me!

I have been asked to blog for http://www.asiana.tv - my first blog for them will be coming soon! But first they wanted to interview me.. so here it is and you can read it here:

http://www.asiana.tv/relationship/marketer-day-writer-night

 

Let me know what you think and I look forward to sharing my first blog with you..

Love

Priya x

The secrets all women want to know – Collaboration with Kamey of SBS – Part 2

It’s been a few weeks since Kamey off of Since Being Single wrote his first post for my blog (read it here), and we had an such an overwhelmingly positive response that part two came quicker than expected, so, once again entirely in his own words hereeeeee’s Kamey!

 

Michael Jordan’s greatest skill was; listen and then go and do it.

Remember, this a new perspective, a new way of thinking, but you must also take action.

After all, if you’re only listening and not applying, you are ultimately wasting your energy reading this.

You and I, we must learn from the greatest: listen and then go and do it.

Right, let’s not waste any more time and get straight into Part Two.

 

Q: Why do men make women their last priority?

I was speaking to a guy friend about this:

“I wouldn’t say men make women their last priority, what I would say is that men don’t make women their top priority. Women are somewhere in the middle on the priority scale for a man.”

And I would totally agree with him.

If this is true, let’s modify the question a little: Why do men not make women their top priority?

As a woman, you don’t want to be your mans number one priority because what is intuitive to a man in a relationship is not what is intuitive to a woman.

See, what’s intuitive to women, can be completely foreign to men.

Listen up…

 

A mans purpose must come before his relationship

If a man (masculine) had to choose one: the perfect intimate relationship or achieving his highest purpose in life, he would choose the latter.

To the masculine, purpose and mission is priority. Period.

As a woman, you are not his top priority in life.

Being your mans ‘number one priority’ is indicative of big problems!

By doing this you are essentially taking him away from his mission.

He will become dependent on you. He will become needy. He will become clingy. He will become less of a man.

Ask yourself: “Do I really want to be in a relationship with another woman? Or do I want to be in a relationship with a MAN?”

As a woman, you really should allow your man to be dedicated to his highest purpose.

(I talk about finding your purpose and creating your one sentence dating destiny plan in Foundations).

You will actually trust and love him more if you are not number one.

But as a woman, you not only want your man to be dedicated to his highest priority, you also want him to love you fully…

 

You want the full spectrum

And this is something that men are lacking.

For example, sexually and physically in love, how many of you girls would love your man to ‘man-handle’ you, not like, “Let’s have sex now dear” (so gentle and soft) “thank youuuu, good nightttttt.”

Wouldn’t you like your man, sometimes, not all the time, to pick you up and throw you on the bed, rip your clothes off, hold you down and love you?

As a woman, you sometimes want to make love, in pure light, where you’re just connected in pure bliss, sometimes you want to talk and cuddle and sometimes you want your man to really, really ravish you (guys take note).

When was the last time you were really, really ravished?

Ravished so that when it was over, your body was just blown apart in ecstasy by your man, he made your toes curl, you bit your lip in ecstasy and were left breathless.

If the answer is never or not very often, it’s probably why you’re feeling like ‘last priority’ in your relationship.

 

Ravishment

You might have good sex, 20mins of eh-eh, orgasm, a little kissy-pooh on the cheek and go to sleep.

(Side note: kissy-pooh is not a real word).

You could have that for 15 years and people would ask you “How’s your sex life?” You would reply and say, “Yeah it’s pretty good.”

But without that ravishment, occasionally, rarely even, there’s a part of you that just remains untouched.

That ‘untouched’ part of you is what makes you feel like last priority.

(Is this good for men to know? I hope so).

You know, as a woman, you need to experience the whole scale. The full spectrum.

You need to. It’s a human need. And if you don’t experience it connected with the heart, you need to experience it in some other ways…

 

50 Shades of Grey

Soap operas, romance novels, love stories are feminine pornography.

It’s why 50 Shades of Grey is such a success!

(I was invited to an early preview of the film last week (not as tasty as the books), but it’s definitely worth checking out!).

It’s the same thing: You get cheating on each other, affairs – the feminine loves that.

If you don’t experience ravishment, you will seek it externally – it’s called external stimulus.

If men just ravished the women they love, whenever it felt right between the two of them, women wouldn’t have the need to perceive pornography.

And that’s the part that we’re lacking in our culture.

Seriously, take him to watch 50 Shades!

 

Q: Why do men love the thrill of the chase?

This is one of the most common questions I get from girls.

First things first: Everyone likes the feeling of being pursued (masculine and feminine), that feeling of being wanted, that feeling of being chased, that feeling of being special and loved.

This is not about playing games, that’s not what I’m saying.

Men love the thrill, not the chase.

 

Thrill, adventure, ecstasy

Every moment is totally a new moment (obviously); I mean every moment is just new.

What’s happening right now, and right now, and right now and right now is absolutely unpredictable.

You have no idea what’s about to happen, just like you had no idea when you woke up this morning, just that we have habituated the normalcy, in the same way you’re reading these words, you think it’s normal.

Try and follow me here…

But to an infant, someone who hasn’t habituated, it’s not. To an infant it’s a constant amazement, constant aura, constant enlightenment, constant freshness, that look on an infants face of constant aliveness.

And so overtime we become habituated to mediocrity. And we start living mediocre lives.

Just another day: ‘Go to work, take care of the kids’ and then we hope that we have these kind of break through moments of something.

In such mediocre lives, any little thrill is heightened to the ecstasy level.

 

Search for release

So what happens is, in our acclamation to habit, we begin to live mediocre lives and we begin to crave non-mediocrity or thrill.

In other words, both men and women are always seeking something.

Right now, you wouldn’t be reading this if you didn’t feel that way.

You wouldn’t have clicked this link unless you thought maybe by reading this article you could get something, learn something, grow in some way.

All of that is a form of seeking. Searching for some ‘betterness’ in your life.

Now there’s nothing wrong with that. We all do that.

The masculine does it in one way and the feminine does it another.

The masculine search is always a search for release. It is a search for release that always ends in freedom.

Men love breakthroughs into freedom and it’s why men pull away from you and the relationship…

 

Q: Why do men retreat to their caves?

In other words, why do men pull away from you and the relationship?

One word: Freedom.

Football for example…

Football is only setting up a situation where you can feel bounds; line men, people facing each other, trapped with this little ball.

You set up a circumstance but the point is to break through those constraints with this little ball into freedom.

Then you get across the goal line and then “YESSSSS! I’M FREEEEE!” And there’s an ecstatic feeling in that.

It’s all in the name of freedom.

It’s always about feeling bound and then seeking release from feeling bound.

If you have a feminine sexual essence you’re probably thinking, “What the hell are you talking about?” But if you have a masculine sexual essence you know exactly what I’m talking about.

 

Freedom, it’s blissful

This feeling of bliss.

That feeling of being at the edge. That feeling of knowing you could win or lose at any time. That’s the bliss point.

That sense of ‘being alive because you could be dead at any second.’ Something like that is so ecstatic that going to work or getting a pay-cheque can’t compare.

It is masculine ecstasy.

If you don’t go to football games, you go to paintballing. These are forms of masculine ecstasy because they involve the feeling of breaking out of release into freedom.

You must leave him alone. Let him be. Don’t question him.

However, before you do this, I want you to remember that the point is not to just leave him and let him be.

The point is to give him his freedom whilst still loving him and being open to him.

He still needs your care and love, but give him the space of being a man. After all you wouldn’t like it very much if he weren’t much of a man!

 

And to wrap up, the key lesson…

While the masculine is always trying to become empty, one thing the feminine is always trying to do is get full.

While the masculine essence likes empty shelves, empty rooms, emptiness, the feminine essence likes fullness.

It’s why women’s wardrobes are full of clothes, handbags and heels. Women like fullness and I think you’d agree with me on that too.

It may also explain why women’s handbags are always so full.

Understand: Men don’t.

Most women out there simply don’t give freedom to their men.

In fact, not only that, most women don’t understand what mistakes they are making on a daily basis that are actually pushing a man further and further away.

Simple: Let him be a man! Look, here’s the thing…

If you want your man to fully commit his attention and time to you, whether that’s in the form of love, time presence, resources or even exclusivity and marriage, you must help him feel like a man rather than constantly stripping that feeling and freedom away from him.

You see, once a man has the gift of feeling like a man, then he’s going to truly come back to the relationship stronger with more to offer you.

 

Valentines Day 2015 – Foundations

I want to share some BIG news!

I’m sure you’ve already heard about this but I wanted to make sure you didn’t miss out…

(Trust me you are not going to want to miss out on this).

This Valentines Day will be the launch of Foundations.

The biggest step in British Asian dating history.

The Foundations to getting anything you want out of British Asian dating.

Every wants love, but not everybody gets love.

There are no “3 quick secrets” or anything of real value that you can get overnight. That’s what marketers want to sell you.

The real question I asked myself many years ago was, “If there aren’t 3 steps to get whatever you want in love, how many steps really are there? And if you can’t get success overnight, how quickly can you actually make a big change?”

Your success in love hinges upon you finding the answer to these questions.

Foundations is not a get-rich-quick dating scheme, although it can make you richer in love than you’ve ever imagined…

Foundations will not bring you a soul mate or rekindle your love life in 24 hours, but it will raise the quality of people and love you attract…

Foundations will not make you deserved of love overnight, although it will up your entitlement to get what you want…

Foundations will sky rocket your success in anything you want do in love.

This is a commitment and the rewards are BIG!

Sign up free and be the first to know: foundationsindating.com

Kamey

I want to thank Kamey for all his hard-work which has gone into these posts! You can follow him using the links below:

@SBSKamey
fb.com/sincebeingsingle
sincebeingsingle.com

 

 

Priya Mulji

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