Priya's Blog

Tienda London – restaurant review

Website – http://tiendalondon.co.uk/

Food – 4.5

Service – 5

Ambience – 5

Location – 4

Wikipedia says that “Tapas are a wide variety of appetizers, or snacks, in Spanish Cuisine.” 

Spain is easily one of my favourite holiday destinations, even though I haven’t visited it as much as I would want to. My friend Ush and I have taken a few trips to the wonderful, happy and sunny country and there are so many places I would want to go and visit in Spain, in fact during the course of this review we decided that next year we are going to take a trip to Seville.. and I cannot wait! What I love about Spanish culture is the freedom. How you can walk around and everyone just seems really happy and content. I remember when I went to Malaga and we stayed in a very non-tourist part of the town, kids would be playing on the beach until late with no worries at all and old people would be sitting in groups, laughing, joking and chatting. It is a wonderful way of life. When I visited Valencia this year I was fascinated by the beauty of the architecture in the City; two days was just not enough.

Anyway I digress..

My friend Ush recently visited a wonderful little family-run restaurant, located in a quaint part of Parsons Green, West London, called Tienda. As we approached the restaurant on a cold Friday evening we could see that people were sitting on the tables outside laughing and chatting and that reminded me of being in Spain, even though the temperature in the UK was slightly different that night!

The first thing that struck me was that the restaurant was ever so pretty and quaint! There was a wine rack which covered the whole surface of one of the walls, cute table décor, they had authentic music playing but it wasn’t too loud and over powering and just really homely.

Tienda London Decor

Tienda London Decor

Tienda London Decor

Tienda London Decor

I started with a glass of the Decenio Crianza, a Rioja which was medium bodied red wine. Ush went for the Torivin, a lemony, fresh white wine which came in an amazing bottle! This is actually a wine made the old world way, in a place called Extremadura. I also had another glass of wine later which was called Ebano6 (2011) Ribera Del Duero, a full bodied wine which I ended up buying a bottle of!

Torivin Wine - Tienda London

Torivin Wine – Tienda London

Ebano6 - Tienda london wine

Ebano6 – Tienda london wine

We started our food with an extremely interesting dish. Olives with chilli (see picture below) – they were hot, hot, hot but weirdly addictive. This was something really unusual and the olives were really huge, meaty, fresh, tangy and tasty. We were excited for the rest of our upcoming meal.

Olives with chilli - Tienda London

Olives with chilli – Tienda London

We started with the one of the specials; a beetroot, pistachio, goat’s cheese and strawberry salad. It was a really unique mix of ingredients but really worked! Especially the strawberry and beetroot which we wouldn’t have ever thought would go together, the juices from the ingredients created an almost sorbet texture. This was a great complement to the next few tapas dishes.

Tienda Salad

Tienda Salad

 

Next we had another special, a skewer with monk-fish, prawn and peppers. This was a warm, lovely, light, tender but meaty and fresh dish. It came with a light olive oil sauce and was absolutely delicious with a light and delicate flavouring.

Monkfish - Tienda London

Monkfish – Tienda London

Our next choice of tapas was prawns with artichoke and pil-pil sauce, garlic, chilli and olive oil (My absolutely, most favourite tapas dish). The prawns, like the other ingredients in the dishes prior, were fresh, it had a mild spicy kick, creamy, tomatoey and perfectly cooked.

Prawns Pil Pil - Tienda London

Prawns Pil Pil – Tienda London

For our final tapas we had roast chicken with saffron sauce and Sautee rice. The chicken was lovely and tender and it had a nice home-style flavour. What I really liked about this dish was that even though there were so many different flavours with the chicken, the saffron and the rice; everything had its own individual taste and complemented the rest of the ingredients without it being too heavy.

Chicken with Saffron Sauce

Chicken with Saffron Sauce

We finished with desserts of a chocolate brownie with vanilla ice cream which was a light, sweet, crumbly, not too gooey and heavy, and the perfect end to Ush’s meal. I went for the chocolate truffles which was a selection of nutty chocolate truffles served with blackberries and raspberries. It was slightly different to what I was expecting but I really enjoyed the nutty, milky and sweet texture with a hot chocolate like sauce.

Chocolate truffles - Tienda London

Chocolate truffles – Tienda London

Chocolate brownie - Tienda Londo

Chocolate brownie – Tienda Londo

Overall, we both had a wonderful evening at the restaurant and will definitely be visiting again; the service was outstanding! They also do a brunch so I am looking forward to trying that out! Tienda is a great place for first dates, catching up with friends, family dinners… everything! It is a very versatile restaurant and based in a location which is easily accessible by train (5-6 minute walk from the station) or you can easily drive to it too.

Tienda is a hidden gem which hopefully won’t be hidden for too long. A Spanish delight, with some of the best tapas we’ve had outside of Spain.

 

Priya Mulji

Senor Ceviche – Restaurant Review

Website – http://www.senor-ceviche.com/

Closest station – Oxford Circus

Food – 4

Service – 5

Ambience – 5

Location – 5

I’ve never been to the South American country of Peru but it is a place I have always wanted to visit and hope to do so one day, I recently got a taste of Peruvian cuisine in the heart of London and it has made my want to visit rise even more.

Located amongst an array of other delightful establishments Senor Ceviche sits in pretty Kingly Court in Soho. It was a Tuesday night when my guest and I decided to visit, as soon as we walked in we saw that the newly opened restaurant had a really amazing buzzing atmosphere. It had quirky South American décor, funky salsa music, had ambient lighting (but not too dark) and was very atmospheric. We were shown to our seats by an excellent waitress called Fabrizia who was actually really ‘fab’ throughout the whole evening, she recommended some excellent cocktails for myself and my guest who has actually been to Peru. We started with a fruity Miraflores (absolutely delicious for all the fruity, girly, cocktail lovers!) and my guest had a Titicaca Fizz which was a long gin and lemon based cocktail.

Miraflores & Titicaca Fizz cocktails at Senor Ceviche

Miraflores & Titicaca Fizz cocktails at Senor Ceviche

Mamacita & Ayahuasca cocktail at Senor Ceviche

Mamacita & Ayahuasca cocktail at Senor Ceviche

Other cocktails we had were the Mamacita, Ayahuasca and the San Isidro Slicker – all were really nice South American style cocktails with great measures of alcohol content and really delicious!

Senor Ceviche serves tapas style food so we started with the Yucas – fried, crispy, Cassava served with a creamy, garlicky sauce. The only time I have ever had Cassava has been in Indian food so this was an excellent way to taste how other cultures cook Cassava.

Yuca at Senor Ceviche

Yuca at Senor Ceviche

Upon speaking to the founder Harry, a guy who has travelled around Peru and his passion for food really comes through, we were surprised to know that the food had a few Japanese influences like Miso and tamarind – but these flavours really worked in the food. I think at a tapas place it is really important to enjoy the food you’re eating because there are so many different flavours  exploding in your mouth at the same time and getting recommendations is great and really important, so a huge thank you to both Harry and Fabrizia.

Next we had the restaurants signature Ceviche the Senor Ceviche which is Sea Bream ceviche with Aji Amarillo tiger’s milk, avocado and tempura baby squid. If you didn’t know ‘Ceviche’ is a cured raw fish and this dish was refreshing, tangy, light yet delicately flavoursome.

Senor Ceviche

Senor Ceviche

Next was the AMAZING Super Chicken – chicken that is marinated and grilled on a skewer then served with in aji rocotto mayonnaise. It was kind of a BBQ style dish but really succulent and yummy, a nice comfort food too, I could have kept eating the chicken all night! It really was super!

Senor Ceviche

Senor Ceviche

By this time I had really taken a liking to Peruvian cuisine; so next was the Chancaca Salmon with Fennel. As I am a huge Salmon lover I found that the fish was perfectly cooked being crispy on the outside and tender on the inside, it was delicately spiced and well presented. It was served with this amazing cucumber side. I’m not quite sure how to describe it but it was thin array of sliced of cucumber in a relish/salsa kind of sauce it was soooo yummy and I could have eaten a whole plate of it!

Salmon with Fennel at Senor Ceviche

Salmon with Fennel at Senor Ceviche

On the side of the dishes we had the Patatas Fritas with tomato fondue, spring onion and Peruvian Cheese which were a nice dish to nibble on.

Patatas fritas at senor ceviche

Patatas fritas at senor ceviche

That was the tapas we had and for dessert I opted for the Passion Fruit Posset which was a light, fruity and creamy dessert and an excellent palette cleanser. My guest went for a chocolate brownie with coconut ice cream  – again a really nice sweet to end the meal with.

Patatas fritas at senor ceviche

Dessert at Senor Ceviche

Overall Senor Ceviche wins with its quirky décor, unique & tasty food, and great location. A great place for after work food, girls evening out or even a casual date! I’ll definitely be visiting the Senor again.

Priya Mulji

Lazeez Tapas Restaurant Review

Lazeez tapas – restaurant review

Website - http://www.lazeeztapas.co.uk/ 

Food – 4
Service – 4
Ambience-4
Location – 5

Closest station – Bond Street

Lazeez Tapas Exterior

Lazeez Tapas Exterior

5th November is generally known as bonfire night but this year I decided not to partake in any firework celebrations and instead I paid a visit to an exciting new establishment in the heart of London. Open for only 4 months, Lazeez tapas specialises in authentic Lebanese cuisine. My guest and I arrived at the restaurant promptly at 7pm for our table reservation and were greeted by a friendly waiter and shown to a quiet corner table lit up by a vibrant glowing candle.

While we were perusing the menu we ordered a couple of cocktails; I had the Hendricks Mountain which was a long, gin-based drink. My guest had the sweet Lazeez which was concocted with a homemade infused almond vodka with a touch of Frangelico, gomme syrup, fresh mint and lime juice.

Lazeez Cocktails

Lazeez Cocktails

We began our meal with a mixed platter which consisted of falafel, tabbouleh, hummus and pita, chicken and lamb. The falafel was a fresh, fried explosion of flavour in your mouth. The chicken was succulent, tender and flavoursome, the lamb was also flavouesome but a little dry, however it was still very tasty! The tabbouleh was fresh, minty and a good accompaniment to the meat. The hummus was rich, creamy and was complemented perfectly by the authentic pita breads.

Lazeez Tapas Platter

Lazeez Tapas Platter

Alongside that we had spicy potatoes and halloumi. The potatoes were tangy, tender, spicy, well-cooked, soft and delicious. The halloumi was the best halloumi I have ever tasted. It was moist, tender, delicately flavoured and almost crispy.

Lazeez Spicy Potatoes

Lazeez Spicy Potatoes

Lazeez Halloumi

Lazeez Halloumi

To follow we had the lamb cubes which was served with chips and pita. The lamb was well-cooked in a spicy marinate and the chips were also served with a spiced coating.

To finish our meal we had crispy, warm, flaky, sweet Baklava. To accompany our meal we had a lovely Lebanese wine called St Thomas. Lebanese wine is known to be one of the best in the world and this most certainly lived up to expectations.

The owner was a friendly gentleman called Emilio, his passion for Lebanese cuisine was evident in the way told me that they source much of their produce from Beirut.

Overall Lazeez tapas is a great place if you’re in central London for delicious, tasty, quick, authentic food. If you like Shisha they have a nice heated outdoor area for you and your friends to enjoy a Shisha, don’t forget to check out their happy hour too!

Apologies for the dark pictures… I forgot to take my camera that day! Here are some more pictures..

St Thomas Wine

St Thomas Wine

Lazeez Sandwich

Lazeez Sandwich

Lazeez Interior

Lazeez Interior

 

Priya Mulji

I would like to thank

By now you must have found out that I didn’t win at the Asian Media Awards which took place on the 28th October in Manchester. The winner was Look A Singh who shares pictures of turban wearing Singh’s on telly, in films etc. Commiserations to the other nominees Asian Culture Vulture and The Red Notebook. We all did so well to get that far!

The night was great, thanks to my friends Urvashi and Bina for helping me with make-up tips which I replicated on the night! I wore a long blue dress from Coast, my mums vintage sapphire earrings, a borrowed bag from Bina and some sexy sparkly Dune shoes.

Some of my favourite awards were for Best Live Event which went to Nirbhaya – a powerful play on the Delhi Rape. Best website went to BizAsia which I avidly follow and Media Agency to Media Moghuls and all of these were very well deserved because I know how hard they work. I was extremely disappointed that Broken Silence didn’t win best TV show though. Special congrats to Eastern Eye for winning publication of the year for the second year running and I am proud to say I contribute to it a little in the form of a column and occasional features.

Of course I am soo happy for the winner but I must say a there is a little part of me that wishes I had won, so I am going to share the speech I had prepared:

“Thank you to the Asian Media Awards for recognising me with this honour. I have a little, tiny blog and just to be nominated is amazing and I’m very thankful for this. I would like to thank my family and friends for always supporting, encouraging me and being there when I needed to run ideas past them and giving me their honest opinions. Thank you to all the other bloggers out there for inspiring me to start blogging.

An extremely special thank you to my Godfather Asjad Nazir for encouraging, supporting and believing in me even when I didn’t believe in myself. And for giving me the opportunity to write a column for the best newspaper in the world Eastern Eye!

And finally, to each and every one of my readers; whether you love or hate my blog I wouldn’t be here without you..

My personal message to everyone that wants to challenge norms:

Be brave

Don’t be scared

And go inspire the world”

I was on the BBC Asian Network the next day on Nihals show (listen back here from 1hr 50) and Nihal asked me what’s next? Well, I never began my blog with an agenda but what I do love doing is helping other bloggers find their voices online. In a world of pressures it is really important for women to be brave and challenge the pressures of society. Its ok not to conform so if you have a blog you would like me to share or you would like me to just give you advice just drop me an email at priyamuljiblog@hotmail.co.uk

Again thank you to everyone for reading my blog. It means a lot and I thank you from the bottom of my fragile heart x

A few pictures from the night:

With Ross Kemp

With Ross Kemp

With the BBC Asian Networks Tommy Sandhu

With the BBC Asian Networks Tommy Sandhu

With Legend Apache Indian

With Legend Apache Indian

With the most real and down to earth Sanyya Gardez

With the most real and down to earth Sanyya Gardez

My dress

With young journalist of the year nominee Harpreet Kaur

With young journalist of the year nominee Harpreet Kaur

With the lovely Nina Wadia

With the lovely Nina Wadia

With some fellow bloggers @asianwedideas & @nazma_afb

With some fellow bloggers @asianwedideas & @nazma_afb

At the BBC at MediaCity Manchester

At the BBC at MediaCity Manchester

In the studio with Nihal

In the studio with Nihal

East Is East – at the theatre

When a film had such an impact on your early adulthood the prospect of seeing it live on stage is a little daunting. This week I went to see the stage adaptation of East is East and I’m happy to say it lived up to all my expectations.

East is East is directed by Sam Yates and written by Ayub Khan Din who also stars in it. Jane Horrocks plays Ella, his very understanding wife.

A little background on East is East is that (and I didn’t even know this) is that the play has been running since 1997 and then the movie came 2 years later. The original movie starred Om Puri and Linda Bassett. In the stage adaptation Ayub Khan Din plays George (or Genghis to his children) and Jane Horrocks plays his wife Ella, and it is wonderfully done. Set in the early 1970’s the film sees a mixed ethnicity family deal with their struggles of being British, Pakistani and Muslim.

East is east

East is east

The cast includes Taj Atwal as Meenah, Sally Bankes as Auntie Annie, Rani Moorthy as Mrs Shah, Amit Shah as Abdul, Nathan Clarke as Saleem, Michael Karim as Sajit and others. Each and every character suited their role perfectly.

The story goes something like this; George is a Pakistani Muslim and is married to white Ella and they own a chip shop in Salford circa early 1970’s. They have 7 mixed race children, all individuals, all strong. They include Sajit who doesn’t take off his parka and needs to get circumcised. Abdul who is happy getting married off, Meenah is the only girl and is a force to be reckoned with! So much so that George wouldn’t even mess with her! George is the father that wants his children to follow a Muslim upbringing even if he has to be forceful about it Poor Ella is caught in between trying to please her husband as well as letting her children be who they want to be.

L-R George Khan (Ayub Khan Din), Ella Khan (Jane Horrocks) and Doctor (Karl Seth) in East is East, photo credit Marc Brenner

The play contains funny moments, sad moments, happy moments, moments when you feel so much for Ella that you just want to give her a hug. The costumes, writing, set everything portrays how you would imagine everything to be and that’s what makes East is East a pleasure to watch. The funniest parts are the ones you’d expect with the model at the end, when Mr & Mrs Shah come to visit and the ‘tickle tackle all gone’ scene. It’s heart-breaking when you see George get violent with Ella and the scene where Abdul is talking to his brother saying he just doesn’t fit in with his work friends.

East is east

East is east

Overall East is East is a must see. If you’ve seen the movie or original play you won’t be disappointed as everything is what you’d expect and if you haven’t seen either….well.. I’m going to let the play itself do all the talking. East is East runs until January at Trafalgar Studios.

Visit their Website here for more details.

 

Priya Mulji

Delhi Brasserie – Review

Website – http://delhibrasserie.com/soho/

Closest station – Tottenham Court Road

Food – 5

Service – 4

Ambience/Location – 4

 

I was pleasantly surprised by the place I visited recently. Delhi Brasserie is based in the absolute heart of Soho but it could almost be a case of blink and you almost might miss it. Delhi Brasserie faces some stiff competition with so many restaurants nearby but I truly believe this place is a hidden gem and I will definitely be going back.

Before my friend Urvashi and I had even stepped in to the restaurant we could smell the beautiful aromas and my friend and I knew we were going to be in for a treat.

We were greeted by waiters who took our coats and showed us to a corner table. What I thought was really nice touch was at every table there was a bottle of Indian wine produced in the wine region of India, Nasik. We decided to try the wine and it was delicious with rich spicy undertones and it complimented our Indian food completely.

Soul Tree Wine Delhi Brasserie

Soul Tree Wine Delhi Brasserie

We started off with some poppadum’s which were a mix of the normal wafer like poppadum’s you get in Indian restaurants as well as the more traditional pappad style ones. This was served with 4 chutneys which were pickle, onions, yoghurt & mint and the most fruit, rich, thick mango chutney I’ve ever tasted!

For starters we had the Crab Achari and Pomfret. Recently I have noticed crab appearing more and more in Indian restaurants and I love that because it is a really unique dish that is easily adapted to Indian dishes. The crab was spicy and tangy. It was minced, marinated, cooked then served in a poppadum dish with salad. My guest had the Pomfret which was served whole and cooked like masala fish. It delicious, different, tangy and spicy. Some of the staff in the restaurant were Bengali so this was a great reflection of Bengali food coming through in the menu as well as North Indian dishes.

Crab Achari Delhi Brasserie

Crab Achari Delhi Brasserie

Pomfret Delhi Brasserie

Pomfret Delhi Brasserie

What I love is when restaurants recommend their favourites. For mains they recommended the sukhi sabzi and aubergine dishes which were sooo delicious, proper home cooked style vegetarian dishes, they made us feel warm and fuzzy inside. The chicken Jalfrezi and chicken Korai were spicy, tender, chunky and tantalising. The Paneer Makhni was slightly different to the one I would normally receive and it was a creamy, sweet n sour take one the normal makhni. The lamb saag was again home-style but slightly salty for our tastes. The garlic naan was fresh and soft and they definitely hadn’t skimped on the garlic, it almost had a garlic dough ball texture and I loved that because i’m not usually a naan fan. The rice was light and fluffy.

Delhi Brasserie

Delhi Brasserie

Delhi Brasserie

Delhi Brasserie

Delhi Brasserie Rice

Delhi Brasserie Rice

Overall all the food was pretty delicious. Everything was served in large portions, it was home-style and comforting. The ambiance was great as it was busy and there seemed to be a lot of after work dinners and groups of friends having dinner, the restaurant had a Moroccan/Rajasthani theme with colourful mirrors and art. The service was friendly and attentive. And the fact that it is so central just makes it all perfect.

 

Overall Delhi Brasserie is a great dining experience and especially for a nice after work meal and it comes highly recommended, especially for the fish.

Priya Mulji

The Strand Dining Rooms – Review

Website – http://thestranddiningrooms.com/

Closest Station – Charing Cross

Food – 5

Drinks – 5

Service – 5

Ambience/location – 5

Outside


October is upon us, the clocks will change soon and the days will be shorter. It all means Christmas is coming! And what else does that mean? Christmas do’s, romantic winter dates and catch up’s with the girls.

In between all this, of course, we have to eat.

I recently visited the Strand Dining rooms with one of my best friends Rita Morar. The three month old restaurant is based a stone’s throw from Trafalgar Square, right on the Strand. We wandered in on a breezy Thursday evening and were instantly enamoured by the high ceilings and beautiful chandeliers. The dining rooms had a really British 1950’s feel but it was also very Sex and The City with lots of groups of women dining as well as mixed groups.

Chandelier

We began with a couple of cocktails. I had a Nelson Collins which is an absolutely delicious long gin based cocktail and garnished with cucumber, for gin lovers I highly recommend this. Rita had a classic Cosmopolitan which was classic in every sense of the word. It was fruity, refreshing, aromatic and almost spicy. With the cocktails we had some starter bread. One of the breads was sooo AMAZING. It was brown fennel bread which was beautifully fragrant and complimented the cocktails. The butter that was served with it was melt in your mouth. I found that the restaurant was the kind of place you could go on a date, for a nice family meal or for a girls/boys evening out.

Bread - Strand Dining

Cocktails - Strand Dining

Moving on to the food…

For starters we ordered the Whiskey Cured Salmon which was lovely and smoky but perfectly complimented with a sweet pickle. It was light, refreshing and perfect on the palette. I ordered the pear, celery, stilton and fennel salad which was a beautiful classic dish that was light, refreshing and made with the freshest ingredients.

Smoked Salmon

Salad - strand dining

For mains I had the Seafood Crumble which was an absolute cheesy delight of prawns and other seafood! It is a savoury take on the apple crumble and is made with tender seafood in a creamy sauce with a light but masculine crumble topping. T. Rita had the Poached fillet of Stone base served with a fish veloute. This had classy presentation, the fish and veloute melted in your mouth and was an absolute creamy dream.

Seafood Crumble - Strand Dining

Stone Bass - Strand Dining

We decided to share a dessert because we were almost stuffed but wanted something sweet. We opted for the baked vanilla cheesecake which was an American heaven! Rich and creamy in texture with hazelnut undertones. Rita also had a delicious, creamy hot chocolate… it was lush!

Vanilla cheesecake - strand dining

To accompany our meal we opted for a white, Les Fleurs De MontBlac which was the perfect complement to the meal.

The Strand Dining Rooms was just flawless. Everything from the food to the décor to the location is just wow… I must also mention the service at the Strand Dining rooms. Every single waiter and waitress was smiley, friendly, attentive and generally happy. Nothing was too much trouble and that was reflected in the service we could see being received by everyone seated in the restaurant.

The Strand Dining Rooms gets a HUGE thumbs up from me and I shall definitely be visiting again in the near future.

A few other pics:

Wine - Strand Dining

Strand Dining

 

Priya Mulji

Manners are dead on the underground.

Sometimes I love London but sometimes I absolutely HATE it. So a little background on me is that I moved to London a little over two years ago when I lost my job, so I tried my luck and found a marketing job down here. Anyway I digress.

So, I’m a modern woman and all that but sometimes after a long hard day at work I would love it if some spotty college boy said to me ‘hey, you look like you’ve had a hard day, would you like to sit down’ and you know what I would love that. Purely because that is polite and shows manners.

However, what disgraces me more is when there is an elderly person or someone that is obviously struggling to stand and no one offers them their seat.

I’ll give you two examples of situations I recently encountered:

Today I was leaning against side of the Piccadilly line service to Uxbridge from Hammersmith around 5.40pm when I saw an elderly passenger but no one was offering them their seat. I insisted they take my place but they actually wanted to wait for a seat to become free, the young guy sitting directly next to us on the first seat obviously heard us and looked up and so did a young girl. I loudly said ‘yeah I’m sorry no one offered you their seat’ yet no one got up. Finally a seat became free all the way on the other side and the poor gentleman had to traipse across.

Disgusting.

Last week, in the morning, around 8.20 am I was on the train in the other direction and a man got on the train and he had 2 walking sticks. Not 1.. 2. Yet no one offered the man his seat.

I’m young, I’m fine standing even when tired but this really disgusts me. The TFL need to promote good manners on the train more and people need to be more sensitive to people who require seats. I have sent a request out for people to share their examples as I want to collate a list and send to TFL so please send me yours by commenting on this post or by emailing priyamuljiblog@hotmail.co.uk.

From lovers to friends

When you meet someone and then you embark on a relationship there can only ever really be two possible outcomes either you get married and live happily ever after you part ways and carry on with your lives as if they were never really part of your lives.

You will talk, maybe try and work things out but it just isn’t happening so you decide that perhaps you can be friends so you think ‘hey, we’ll keep in touch and we can be friends.’ You hang out, maybe try being friends with benefits but there feelings remain. This situation is easier when you were friends before but say you met online or were set up and then embarked on a relationship then the chances are that the friendship will fizzle out.

Or that maybe you will realise that you can’t bear to be apart and start on a happy relationship again. In these situations I have found the relationship becomes stronger because you have seen life without each other and appreciate each other more.

But if the latter doesn’t occur and you do decide to be friends then just remember one thing, you might be okay with being friends but your new partner isn’t going to be so happy, no matter how secure they are in themselves they will always wonder why you keep in touch. If you are friends with your ex but don’t tell your new partner then there is definitely something wrong in your relationship.

You both could go through life and not meet anyone but then the question arises of perhaps you both were destined to be in each other’s lives as more than friends.

My view, and the view of many other people I spoke to is that only stay friends with someone if you would be okay if you saw them with another person or moving on with their lives otherwise you’ll end up living in the past.

 

Priya Mulji

It is NOT a male dominated industry

Girl Power!

“If you want to change a whole people, then you start with the girls. It stands to reason: they learn faster, and they pass on what they learn to their children.” 
― Terry Pratchett

“who runs the world… girls” Beyonce

girl-quotes-about-girl-power-793

Now this is something that is extremely close to my heart. As someone who is constantly around strong, balanced, talented, brave women on a daily basis I recently saw a promotional picture for an Asian event. I am inspired by Yasmin Alibhai-Brown, Mindy Kaling and other strong women to make a difference, The promotional picture featured not even one female face when females are heavily involved with the event.

Why is this?

I put this question out onto social media and a number of people came back to me saying ‘it’s because the British Asian Music Industry is a male dominated industry’.

This infuriated me because I don’t know why they said this – there are so many talented and influential female role models in British Asian Media such as Rita Morar, Noreen Khan and Japjit Kaur. I even reached out to them to the people who organised the event but alas there was no response.

I started thinking about this more and more and it began to really get under my skin. If it wasn’t for women who work in the industry, the women who buy these artists music and go to their shows, if it wasn’t for their mothers and partners; none of these people would be where they are today.

Yet people continue to say the British Asian Music scene is male dominated.

I want to show you my examples of how women dominate wherever they go.. I reached out to my social media followers and asked them who or what they thought was an amazing example of GIRL POWER!

Here are a few:

Asjad Nazir said that her sister “Shaista Gohir is a definition of girl power”

Singer Keshiv Kaushal said “My Italian mother who married a Punjabi had to grasp Punjabi culture and be accepted by my father’s family. I forget she is Italian sometimes!”

Rita Morar said “Football coach Manisha Tailor is my inspiration – she goes out of her way to help everyone, she makes a change in society through helping women and racism in football. They are not easy subjects to tackle but her strength shines through her dedication. I have never known any other lady with such drive and energy.”

Broken Silences host Sanyya Gardez said she was in awe of “women like Oprah Winfrey, who have changed the definition of what it means to be successful. She never married or had children (the outdated notion of success for women). She stayed true to herself and remains one of the most powerful voices in the world.”

My personal heroes are people like my sister who manage a busy career and a family life, my best friend who manages a newborn, a career where she saves lives and family. Rita Morar who manages her own music career, who has a day job, who balances her family life as well as making time for her friends.

When I hear such backward notions as ‘it is a male dominated industry’ it really makes me sad to think that such outdated thoughts exist. I recently met Japjit Kaur at the Asian Media Awards whom I went to see in a very touching play called Nirbhaya. It is based on the Delhi rape and will be touring again soon so please do try and see it. Even though we have never met before she was such a wonderful person. Japjit could have had the biggest head in the world, I mean her portrayal of the main victim in that whole situation was touching. It is horrible to think that things happen to women at the hands of those men but she was down to earth, inspiring and amazingly talented. How many men can say they have changed someone’s life like Japjit has with her portrayal of the victim in Nirbhaya?

Read more about Nirbhaya here

 

 

I’m going to leave you with this fact;

Noreen Khan’s show on the BBC Asian Network has achieved record listening figures for any show on the station. I love Noreen because she seems like one of those women whom I want to be best friends with and wish her all the very best at the Asian Media Awards. All i’, saying is that if that doesn’t show girls dominate I don’t know what does!

 

Priya Mulji

 

Picture reference – http://www.glavoquotes.com/images-quotes/girl-quotes-about-girl-power

Post Navigation

Follow

Get every new post delivered to your Inbox.

Join 4,071 other followers